Well hello there, welcome back to my caesarian chat. Unsurprisingly, there was a part one to this post, which you can read here, if you haven’t already. The following are some more questions that popped-up on my Instagram, and in general conversation, since I had my baby boy. I hope the answers provide you with a little but of insight, or can at least help to satiate some of your curiosity towards (my) c-section. Here goes…
What happened / where did you go – afterwards?
From what I remember, it took around another half an hour or so, to glue me back together (no stitches; incredible). Rex had gone off to his temporary home in NICU, and once I was cleaned and bandaged, I was wheeled into a private room to recover. This is where things get so fuzzy. I know that I was in and out of consciousness for a couple of days. I was on a lot of pain relief, I was hooked-up to fluids, and I was having my blood sugars, temperature, and blood pressure, checked hourly.
I only have memories of random things happening, like midwives expressing my colostrum for me, to give to Rex, and being moved to the maternity ward. It was all a blur; I had no idea what day it was, and I didn’t even realise that I’d been to see Rex. But, more on that in another post.
How long was it sore for?
I’d say that the wound itself, wasn’t sore at all. I was completely numb there for weeks and weeks. There was some internal pain, especially when I bent or stretched, for about 2-3 weeks, which gradually eased. It was more of an uncomfortable feeling all the time, over feeling really painful. I was walking to and from NICU, after about 3 or 4 days, and felt fine.
What are your recovery tips?
This is hard, because my baby was taken away to be cared for. So, I wasn’t breastfeeding (just expressing), or picking him-up. Therefore, I feel like I was able to heal fairly quickly. The main thing I would say is to be kind to yourself. Ask for help whenever and wherever you can. Ensuring that you get plenty of water will also help you physically heal, and it ensured my milk supply arrived. Eat well, and sleep/rest when you can. Forget about tidying, washing, and cleaning; these are non-essential activities.
A bottle of water, comfy, loose clothes/pjs, and an endless supply of snacks, were key to my recovery. I wish I’d asked the nurses and midwives for more help at the start. I was self-conscious and too anxious to ask someone to help me express, or get me a drink or food; I didn’t want to be a nuisance on a busy ward, especially as my baby wasn’t even next to me. However, I soon realised that they were all more than happy to help me; that’s why they do their job, and I was reassured that I was no bother at all.
Also, cry. Cry as much as you need to.
Where / how big – is your scar?
My scar is very low, below my bikini line. I’d say that it’s about 4 inches / 10 cm long.
How do you feel / do you feel anything / are you conscious – towards your scar?
Most days, I don’t notice it at all. And, I rarely think about it. If I do feel it in the bath or shower, I’m pretty matter-of-fact about it really. I have a scar on my neck from where my thyroid was removed, and I’m not self-conscious about that anymore, so, I’m definitely not bothered by one that nobody ever sees. If anything, it’s a reminder of how I managed to grow my baby, and how he arrived safely.
I’m aware that there are women who feel differently towards their scar, which I can totally understand. And, I know that they can also cause issues with irritation and clothing for some. So, I feel very lucky that my c-section scar hasn’t affected me physically, or mentally at all.
How do you feel about giving birth that way?
Incredibly proud. All women should feel proud that they’ve given birth, however it’s happened.
Would you have one again?
100%. If it’s the safest option for my baby to be delivered, and for me to survive; it’s a no-brainer. I am not saying that it’s universally the safest option for women either, but, for me, it was, and is.
Let me know if there are any other questions you have, and I can do a part 3. Did you learn anything? Or were my answers what you expected? I’d be really interested to know. Thanks for taking the time to read my post!
Peace, love, and crying, Fay x